You may be aware I have a small obsession with Disney. It’s an affliction I live with on a daily basis. So when I see someone proclaim, “I don’t want my daughter to be like a Disney Princess,” I question what he or she means. Why wouldn’t you want that?
I had a snarky paragraph linking you to other blogs and articles on why certain mother’s don’t want Disney raising their kids. I don’t want this to be a personal attack, so I took it all out. You can find them if you know how to use Google.
Blaming someone, or something else, for raising your kids a certain way is ignorant. This is about as close as I’m going to get on the topic of feminism; when an author was asked her least favorite princess, her response was Ariel. “My least favorite is probably Ariel. She gives up her voice to get a man. That’s the worst metaphor ever!” Ok, deep breaths…
First of all, well done skipping over the part where her father destroyed her room of artifacts. Ariel was sixteen, what do you think happens when you destroy a sixteen year olds room? She runs off and does something stupid. Plus Ariel was always interested in the human world and wanted legs. Ahem…
“I wanna be where the people are
I wanna see, wanna see them dancin’
Walking around on those – what do you call ’em?
Oh – feet!”
“What would I give if I could live out of these waters?
What would I pay to spend a day warm on the sand?”
She already wanted to be up there! Prince Eric was just the kicker, who happens to treat her really well. Remember their first (in person) encounter, she was basically naked, and his eyes stayed up top the entire time. Isn’t that a common complaint of women with men? Their eyes drift.
If I had a daughter, I would want her to be like a Disney Princess. Her choice of which one!
Jasmine – She was locked in a castle for her entire life, and is being forced to marry some random absurdity of a man. She also has no mother, yet she is one of the kindest, sweetest people in all of Agrabah.
Tiana – She worked her ass off, and got nothing. So what happens? She is turned into a frog, works her ass off, falls in love, and then is rewarded with her own restaurant (not free mind you). Funny thing about owning a restaurant; you work your ass off the rest of your life.
Rapunzel – Another one locked away; this time in a tower. She was kidnapped as a child, and then forced to cure an old lady from getting more wrinkles. Granted, Rapunzel doesn’t know this, but all she wants to do is see the floating lanterns. Also, she is incredibly sweet, well mannered, and a bundle of joy.
Belle – Smart, courteous, and well-read. That should say enough. She then gives her own life to save her fathers, where she is forced to live with a beast and talking inanimate objects that can sing. It’s also implied she is stalked daily by the muscle bound Gaston.
Merida – She is forced into marrying one of three men, based on a contest of skill. What does she do? She wins the damn contest herself. Sure, she accidently turns her mother into a bear and almost dies a dozen times. (Side note, this is a really underrated movie.)
Cinderella – I’m not sure I have to say anything, but I will. FORCED SLAVE LABOR. That should be enough, but add in her only friends are mice, and she is basically raped by her own step sisters when she looks better in a dress than they do. She freakin’ deserved a fairy god mother.
Mulan – Mulan isn’t allowed to do anything, except marry someone. Instead she tricks the military into believing she is a man, where she works her ass off. She then promptly saves the entire country of China and the respect of men! Do I need to remind you, China is one of the most populated countries in the world?
Pocahontas – This one is tough, because it’s based on real American history, yet it made its own rules for the story. Same idea though, no mother, great kid, and is betrothed. She understands nature, and knows what her people stand for. She chooses right over wrong, even as her people are threatened.
Aurora – This is another tough one, because she has about fifteen minutes of actual speaking time. Basically, she is forced to live in the woods because some jealous weirdo with horns doesn’t like her. She lives there with three old ladies, and then she is cursed into sleeping forever. Not a perfect life, yet she is a genuinely good, and happy person.
Snow White – The fairest of them all. Oh, except, she never actually asked anyone, “Who is the fairest of them all?” That was her crazy step-mother. Snow White doesn’t care who the fairest of them all is. She just misses her mother. For those crimes, she is brought to the woods to be murdered. She is taken in by kind dwarfs, but is eventually poisoned by her step mother. She should want revenge, and cosmic justice. In the end, she is still the same sweet girl.
Anna & Elsa: Elsa is cursed with unexplained magic that almost kills Anna. Then their parents die on the way to Rapunzel’s wedding. This would devastate two young girls. Granted, Elsa locks herself away in depression, but only because she didn’t understand herself. Anna sings and dances around the castle. This one is different though, it’s about sisterly love. Whatever the case is, it’s the same theme; doing something good for someone you love. Making sacrifices.
What have we learned? For starters, most of these women should be in therapy. Kidnapped, forced into labor, forced marriage, and most of them are orphans or without a parent. Yet, they are all strong ladies with morals, and ethics. They strive for greatness, and they are rewarded with love.
To sum this up, when someone says, “I don’t want their daughters to be a Disney Princess,” I think this…
If my daughter has a chance of love, I want her to strike that future down with furious anger, and forge her own path, alone, and unhappy. This way, when she is older, she can say she did it all on her own.
Guess what? All of those Disney Princesses you hate so much; they all made their own paths. That was the point. They were more than a princess. They were good people. Isn’t that what every parent wants?
Thanks for staying with that, I know not everyone is a Disney fan.
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